Men or Women. It doesn’t really matter which one it is. It’s the deep connection you have with them that transforms your life.
After 5 years of an insane rolloercoaster we call love I can deffinetly say I know little something about it….. Yes love. L .O. V. E. A word that isn’t just tossed around for the fun of it but it actually means something in this world. Love can tear you up, it can drive you insane, It could literally end world hunger but do we choose love in this day and age when we have the world at our finger tips? This is my version of love written by the heart and sole of everything I have been through for the last 5 years.
I’m not going to start from the beginning because that would be too long so I hope you keep on track as I speak about relationships for a reasonable sized post.
I want to start with the fact that everyone is created and made into someone completely unlike anyone else. The magic is what you bring to the table in terms of character, personalty and apparently most importantly the way you look. Can I just say that the way you look should not conquer who you really are. I know social media pushes you to bring out the side of you that’s full of vanity and self doubts but love looks past all of that because in the end it doesn’t really matter. Always be you.
Let me start with the fact that relationships are all different. They are all different size, shapes and structures. The second fact is they are hard. They are a game that will never stop. You can never win at relationships because the game never stops, it’s constantly throwing stones, floods, diseases, other people, distractions, curve balls etc. I have never met any couple who have said their life is easy because nothing ever is.
The first rule of relationships is trust.
Trust is vital for any human being, we live off trust as a couple because otherswise how else would we get through the days where we arn’t together? if you don’t trust your partner better yet, yourself you need to take a step back and assume the position of avocado. Nothing will work if that wall of trust is not there or is broken. Trust me when I say that trusting someone after they hurt you is hard but if it’s really meant to be you will build that wall back up together. If there is no wall to begin with the journey will be a spiral of doubt and jealously. Basically the hunger games.
The second rule of relationships is Independence.
Everyone has seperate goals in life, being small or huge doesn’t matter but if your wanting someone in your life while your heading towards them you need to be able to be your own person too. I see so many couples, who mould into one person which isn’t necessarly the worst thing but when one has dreams and tries to address them and the other isn’t capable of being independent therefore holds back the other in fear of loosing them to their dreams. You need to be a support system to your other half even if that means you have to be alone sometimes, as long as you have love for them and are devoted being your own person should flow straight through.
The third rule of relationships is going with the flow.
How many times have you heard your girlfriends/boyfriends say:
- he/she takes forever to text me back.
- their always out with their friends.
- he/she said I looked NICE…not great.
- he/she didn’t compliment my outfit.
- Why doesn’t he/she want to wear matching outfits.
The fourth rule of relationships is have fun and don’t get pulled down by commitments, if it’s meant to be it will be.
The list is endless, I’ve been through this and I know how you feel but you can’t rely on your other half to make you feel better all the time, this is where you need to be independent and find that you don’t need to be told your a great person you just need to know it deep inside. Trust your gut and know your worth because you’re fabulous!
“When love is not madness, it’s not love”
– – Pedro Calderon
Being in love is the most rewarding feeling, it’s like walking into a waterfall and feeling the water wash away everything bad away from your life, you wake up and you feel happier even lighter because you know how much your life has changed because of this one person. How can one person make such a physical and emotional change, change the way you eat, sleep, even live astounds me.
If your still looking for love, do not worry. Life is about challenges and meeting extrodany people you just have to be open for it. Sometimes it will seem hard or just pointless but you can’t give it. Love will not come if your force it or try too hard, you have to just let the flow come naturally and you never know who is round the corner…..